The joys of solitude
Solitude may be one of the most misunderstood — yet most important — needs of the 21st century. Never before have we had so many demands placed on our attention or the need to be in constant communication, in both our working lives and our relationships.
All the more reason to take frequent "time outs" to tune out the distractions and tune in to ourselves.
Solitary but unconfined
Spending time alone helps us replenish and revitalize our mind, body and spirit. By allowing space to hear our own inner voice, instead of the constant bombardment of external voices and information, we can get in touch with our own feelings and needs.
It's also an opportunity to reflect and solve problems. Many artists, scientists and creative thinkers note that their best ideas come, not when they are working head-on to solve a problem, but when they get away from distractions and get in tune with themselves.
Getting out of the fray can also offer a new perspective on our lives — and that can lead to positive change. Here are some ways to carve out some solitude in a constantly networked world.
Turn it off. Establish a black-out zone by setting a regular period of time, say an hour a day or a few hours each week, where you turn off all your electronic and communication devices. Eliminating disruptions will allow you to focus on your own thoughts.
Silence is golden. Monks take a vow of silence for a reason. Can you take a half hour where you don't listen to music or speak out loud? It may seem strange at first, but this will help you hear your inner voice.
Let your mind wander. Daydreaming is good for us. Give yourself permission to let your mind drift. If you do this regularly, you'll start to observe patterns and recurring themes and you'll discover that your body and mind are"talking" to you. Honour this inner voice.
Enjoy a hobby. Focusing on a pastime is a great way to be alone without feeling lonely.
Take a walk. Strolling, walking, gardening or other forms of solitary exercise are ways of being alone and offer the added benefit of exercise.
Step into a book. Escaping into your own world is a great way to carve out solitary time when you are surrounded by others. Reading a book can be a great way to do this.
Seek spiritual care. Places of worship are traditionally locations where time and space are provided for personal contemplation, reflection and prayer.
Reconnecting
Even if you can only grab 10 minutes of solitude a day, you'll find that it helps you feel refreshed and energized. You'll also discover one of the greatest joys of solitude: It can enhance your connections with others when you reconnect.